Long gone are the days where guys would ask girls to be their girlfriends before anything would happen. In modern times more dates will occur and more time will go by before defining the relationship (DTR). And that’d fine, as long as both parties are on the same page. The question is, when should the relationship be defined?
If you’re looking for a fling then you’re good with not even DTR’ing. But if you’re into the other person and you want to avoid being fooled and hurt, then I would say DTR ASAP! One specific quality that I don’t appreciate in people is selfishness, but in this case you have to look out yourself to avoid future disappointment. Lack of confidence to ask where you stand will reflect a negative image of your power in the relationship. Guys want to get away with no commitment and would want to postpone it for as long as possible. So why wait for him to start calling you his girlfriend?! Be reasonable in negotiating but make clear what you want and what you are expecting from him and you. Don’t be afraid of the loss, because at the end of the day it will be his loss!