Long gone are the days where guys would ask girls to be their girlfriends before anything would happen. In modern times more dates will occur and more time will go by before defining the relationship (DTR). And that’d fine, as long as both parties are on the same page. The question is, when should the relationship be defined?

If you’re looking for a fling then you’re good with not even DTR’ing. But if you’re into the other person and you want to avoid being fooled and hurt, then I would say DTR ASAP! One specific quality that I don’t appreciate in people is selfishness, but in this case you have to look out yourself to avoid future disappointment. Lack of confidence to ask where you stand will reflect a negative image of your power in the relationship. Guys want to get away with no commitment and would want to postpone it for as long as possible. So why wait for him to start calling you his girlfriend?! Be reasonable in negotiating but make clear what you want and what you are expecting from him and you. Don’t be afraid of the loss, because at the end of the day it will be his loss!



Know your worth

It is known that us girls like to hold on to things, when deep down we know that we are worth so much more than that. Perhaps that’s because we see them as challenges and if we try harder one day we will get to where we are imagining in our heads. Or perhaps it’s because we are afraid of letting go.. In the try to hold on to something meaningless we neglect the people that are always there for us and would do anything to make us smile. One very important lesson that I’ve learned is to stop caring for the people that don’t care for you, because if now they don’t, they never will. Stop neglecting the ones that love you. It is time to realise who is worth keeping in your life and who isn’t. Life is too short to be wasting it on the ones that don’t bother.